In memory, Mental wellbeing

It’s March 31st again

This date looms in the calendar. 11:20(ish) a.m.. 3 years ago today he left us when he should’ve been allowed to stay. He was such a wonderful man, and I’m not just saying this because I’m biased. He was a much better man than me. And 3 years on, it feels like it’s been barely […]

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Food

The Onions RIP

I did bad, I killed the onions! I’m an onion murderer! Apparently, onions only like onion neighbours and if a weed moves into their neighbourhood they die. They could make friends, they could share sugar and invite each other out for lunch, but no. Onion sees his new neighbour, sees it’s not an onion, clutches […]

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Poems & short stories

Duncan stepped outside

Something rustled — a trash bag rustled but what made it rustle was unknown. A cat maybe, or a fox, a rat — it could’ve been any one of a number of things, some more plausible than others. Like aliens. It could’ve been a pre-invasion scout gathering intel on our race by rifling through our […]

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Mental wellbeing

Time

Time just runs, it races away and distracts, and soon enough time is done. We’re done. It’s done, everything. Memories, the lot of it — vague and crystal — none of them now, all of them then, and then nothing. Not even a name. Not every again.

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Health

I’m ill — I’m dying. I might already be dead

If I was still working in a funeral home they’d take one look at me — glassy eyes, clammy skin, pale complexion — and figure I was a new resident. They’d plop me on a gurney, cover me for dignity, and wheel me into the mortuary. I wouldn’t find it cold, even though the room’s no warmer than […]

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Mental wellbeing, Poems & short stories

This unexplainable me

There’s a vacuum here beside me — it’s a hungry empty space — Nothing seems to fill it and it won’t just go away. This room I find so crowded — it’s a hive for lots of things — I know I’ve seen an exit but I don’t recall the way. I hear the clock […]

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Poems & short stories

You have the love I need

Sauntering through space with a graceful roll, a small rocky icy ball roughly two miles across, maybe more or less, it had never been measured, moved at a lazy couple of hundred thousand miles an hour — it was going so slowly that all the other comets would’ve mocked it had they seen it but […]

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Poems & short stories

Together

Well, here he sat with his head in his hands and wondering what the hell he should do. His wife was dead. Beryl lay prone at his feet, her eyes glazed looking up at him, her lips smiling — taunting him! He despised her lifeless, open eyes; they were hollow and judgemental, accusing him of […]

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Poems & short stories

Deaths docile sea

Rot will our corpses — It’s our one guarantee! And our souls shall wade into Deaths docile sea; And we’ll leave them behind us — These folks we adore — And we’ll glance back and see them, All stood on the shore. We’ll stand in warm water That’ll lap at our knees — Behind us […]

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In the funeral home

Death in the Funeral Home

How do those in the industry cope? Humour. Love it or loathe it – we laugh. Catch us colleagues alone and you’ll be hard pressed to not hear chuckles and titters – maybe even hearty guffaws – emanate from our chests, and not see tears of laughter freely fall. Okay, maybe we’re not all that full on […]

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In the funeral home

The people in your local Funeral Home

What they do… Contrary to the image of a Lurch – tall and lanky and unnerving, moving slowly around like a ghoul – and especially contrary to the image currently being portrayed by Eastenders, the people who work in your local Funeral Home are regular citizens, guys and gals with their hearts in the right places. […]

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In the funeral home

Where have they died?

Who to call & what to expect At Home • Contact their GP – they need to certify their death and give their permission to move their body. The GP may visit, they may give their permission to you down the phone, or charge an attending Nurse to give permission on their behalf, depending on how […]

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In the funeral home

An end of life discussion

The benefits outweigh the bad From our alarms in the morning to our duvets at night barely a moment goes by without death making an appearance in one form or another – from the fly killed by Raid to the meal on our plates, to our programmes that at night entertain – and we’re so […]

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In the funeral home

Choosing the right Funeral Home

A choice between the best… For some a particular Funeral Home will hold significance through an historic connection and their decision will be easy, but for others being faced with death is a new experience, so where should they go? The phone book and internet listings are full of them, so who do they choose? Shop around Ask family and […]

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In the funeral home

The day-to-day in a funeral home

Mundane in a Funeral Home… Death – surprise! – is the day-to-day mundane in a funeral home, but not as you might expect. Death buries us beneath paperwork – it’s all forms here and forms there – some more forms because you can never have enough forms to fill in – and sign here, initial there, a redo […]

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In memory

Death – friend or foe?

Why do I take seriously what I take seriously? I think Dorothy Zbornak (from The Golden Girls, played by Bea Arthur, may she rest in peace) posed this question perfectly back in 1985. During the episode The Heart Attack (1.10) Dorothy told the tale of an acquaintance who went to Paris, visited a restaurant, and […]

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In the funeral home

The Chapel of Rest

Should you visit? That is entirely up to you. Some feel compelled, some refuse, some feel like they should but can’t – you can only do what feels right to you. I personally feel that it is sometimes better to regret doing something than for not, but then that’s a dangerous game – I repeat, do […]

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Death

A parent should never bury a child

It is wrong, quite simply… Oh, if only the World revolved as it ought – if only there was no pain, no sorrow, no wars, no deaths before their time – but it doesn’t. The World revolves as it wants, and we as mere humans must accept it, and it isn’t easy. Life, in its […]

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In memory

He went on holiday & he never came home

Oh, Facebook – why must you remind me so? I woke this morning to one of those – I can’t remember what they’re called, bare with, I check – ‘On This Day’ notifications, and 2 years ago I was delighting in the tantrum of a cyclist who’d ridden into a wall and promptly thrown a hissy (it […]

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In the funeral home

Grief – a frequently asked question

Am I grieving correctly? Yes – yes you are! It might not feel right but it is right – absolutely! – for grief befogs reality – stable emotions? Not likely – and grief is a very personal thing to endure. Should someone dare say that you’re grieving wrong, respond “OMG I never knew grief was ‘one style suits all’,” […]

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In the funeral home

Explaining death to children

The have a special job to do It was not but last night that I had the pleasure of watching some programme on BBC 1 about the police – I’ll admit that I wasn’t really watching it, so please don’t ask me for details, I was arguing with words at the time, but my attention […]

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